Lifestyle

7 Steps to goal setting

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Years ago I went to one of my first personal development conferences at the suggestion of my big sis Chalene .. it was a Brian Tracy conference. I just found my notes & I definitely followed this to a T! 🎯

Thought I’d share! Does it help??
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7 Steps to goal setting:⁣
1. Decide EXACTLY what you want⁣
2. Write it down, only top 3% write it down ⁣
3. Set a deadline & sub deadlines⁣
4. Make a list of everything you have to do to achieve your goal⁣
5. Organize the list by sequence & priority⁣
6. Take action immediately with NO guarantee of success. If you want to hit a bullseye, throw more darts!!!⁣
7. Do something scary EVERY DAY

Start acting on what you DO have

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🤦🏼‍♀️Who’s gonna care what I post
🤦🏼‍♀️I’m so awkward
🤦🏼‍♀️My life is too boring to be interesting
🤦🏼‍♀️___is probably talking behind my back
🤦🏼‍♀️I hate how I look/sound

How I felt starting this business and getting on social media. I hear it from my new coaches now. I can promise you they’re all normal thoughts.

I can also promise you they’re all ego and fear talking. None of it’s relevant.

You started on this endeavor because you knew, deep down, you had something to offer.

It’s time to stop dwelling on what you don’t have, and start acting on what you DO have🤜🏼🤛🏼

Any REALLY inspirational person you know also had a rough start BUT THEY ENDURED it… hence the label “inspirational” 😉

Be that person for someone else.

Just START

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Right?!?! I hear it all the time & I say it too.

I could literally put as part of my bio “this week is nuts” and it would always be true☺️💯

But let’s stop kidding ourselves.. when we tell ourselves “I’ll start once things slow down” ..I mean things CHANGE yes, but usually life is NOT gonna slow down. There’s ALWAYS unexpected twists & turns.

☝🏼So just START.

It’s like having a baby.. are you ever REALLY ready for that life change? (don’t answer that if you’re 39 weeks pregnant & losing sleep ☝🏼😂) But otherwise, no. But we MAKE time for what’s important to us☝🏼😉

Am I right, or am I right?!

 

Are you an over-thinker?

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Raise your hand if you’re an over-thinker??🙋🏼‍♀️

Hold on a minute, let me over-think the question 🤔

SERIOUSLY ..it’s a problemmm😂.

I’m guilty.

What would your life look like if you said “I’m just gonna DO IT” ..more often in the last 5 years?! Where would you be now? What do you regret NOT doing?
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Aside from first praying on it, here are 5 steps that have helped me …
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1.) Make a list of pro’s & cons
2.) Talk to honest, positive open minded people in the thick of it
3.) What’s the impact of NOT doing it- mentally, physically, financially
4.) Is it something that moves you closer to who you want to be and how you want your day-to-day life to FEEL?
5.) How will it positively or negatively impact your family?
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If you’re in the midst of finding clarity, does this help?!

Be confident and kind

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I just had to have a little talk with Mr Furley about not livin his best life if he’s constantly trying to dominate!

Do you know PEOPLE like this??

It comes from a place of fear and insecurity. Don’t let that intimidating person make you feel SMALL!

I use to have a boss like this & I had high anxiety the moment she walked into the office😨 I can’t IMAGINE *wanting* to make people around you feel uncomfortable! It’s BIZARRE to me!

But kill ‘em with your confidence and kindness☺️

Once you understand it’s THEM & not you, they lose their intimidation over you! Right?!☝🏼😉

How do you deal with nay sayers?

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Your Nay Sayers: Do you ..

1. love proving them wrong or do you 2️. fall prey to internalizing their words??

Be honest☝🏼

It’s kinda CRAZY to me how much others’ opinions – a friend, a spouse, a co-worker- impact our perspective and decisions …and then OUR LIVES. I wouldn’t be where I am today had I listened to so many nay sayers when I started this business. They were uninformed non-dreamer types who also don’t know my drive and work ethic.

Thank God I knew enough to check FACTS & then just get to work!

“Well good luck with THAT” was fuel to my fire🔥They didn’t know the hurdles I’ve overcome in the past and what I can accomplish if I get focused!

Are YOU letting others put a cap on your potential?! Or… is it YOU that’s having trouble seeing it?

Feel the emotion and deal with the situation

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Ever see an email, DM or text that causes you even the slightest anxiety so you head straight to the pantry or fridge to find comfort food?? 👩‍💻🍫

Yes?! Something crunchy, maybe sweet?!

I’ve done that SO many times🙋🏼‍♀️ Obviously the answer isn’t in another snack/treat/drink (whatever your indulgence is).

I’ve learned to stop WALKING AWAY (towards food) and instead feel the emotion and just deal with the situation as best I can …& give myself permission to do so imperfectly… because I don’t always know the RIGHT/BEST way and that’s OK. Right?!

Procrastination isn’t my friend and unfortunately chips & guac won’t solve the problem!☺️ You with me on this??

Are You Pursuing Your Ideal Life?

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I used to sleep with a tennis racket next to my bed in case I was attacked by a bat🦇
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Let me explain ..and first please know, my parents gave me an AMAZING childhood with love, lessons & belief in myself!
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But when I was in 1st grade, we had moved into a 100-year old Victorian home/mansion that had been trashed; everything inside broken, smelly, rats, mice, bats. It had 3 floors, elevators, a ballroom, 6 chimneys (perfect for bats) and again, it had been trashed by previous owners.
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My parents wanted to restore the house to its original state.
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In the years of restoration of this house, we had break-ins, my bedroom window was shot-3 bullet holes, my dad’s van was stolen from our driveway, constant battling w/bats- I remember dad attempting to kill a bat flying over my little brother napping😮, my parents cars vandalized & the list goes on.
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In the coming years we were on the news for the amazing restoration mom & dad had done and I *think* we may have been perceived as “rich”. I don’t know. I didn’t care about money, I just wanted safety & normalcy.
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When we moved years later, we had no money and moved into a small house in a normal neighborhood.. ahh, my basic need for safety was met!! (except for aggressive fights with Chalene🤼‍♀️😆)
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But I’m so grateful for that 6 yrs of my life bcuz it taught me SO much!
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Sometimes someone will say to me, “I know this will sound weird to you but I’m not motivated by money” .. as if *i* am🤔
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Believe me, I’ve been poor and rich and back & forth thru my life. I know full well that money doesn’t buy happiness☺️
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It’s the small things.. being home when my son gets off school, having control of my schedule, working my passion, living each day not just weekends. Earning the money to be able to make choices for myself & my family is a major bonus. Gratitude at every stage is KEY.
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Stay consistent, surround yourself with an awesome FitSister tribe🤸🏼‍♂️🏄‍♀️🧘🏼‍♀️ who empowers you to be better, don’t even TRY to please everyone or DO every thing, leverage your strengths & trust the ups & downs🎢 of your path are necessary!
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What’s your IDEAL life ….& are you pursuing that??

Involve your spouse/significant other in your healthy lifestyle

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Does your spouse/significant other workout & try to eat healthy like you?

I feel lucky Matt & I have that in common and always have but I wish more of you had that too! Here’s some things you could try:

1. Enter yourselves into something competitive together, something you’d both like, since he/she might not care initially about “fitness” as being competitive & feeling like an athlete. Before you know it, he/she might want to become fitter just to WIN. But then they start seeing the inward & outward benefits😉

2. Graduallyyyyyy & subtly transition certain foods/meals/snacks to healthier choices (☝🏼you don’t have to mention it’s healthy if that’s an annoying “thing” your partner thinks you push).

3. Does your significant other have aches/pains/signs of aging/muscle loss/illness/cancer in the family or cancer fears? Maybe put on a podcast in the car (as if it’s just for you to hear😉) but simultaneously educating them that sugar, processed foods, lack of exercise, excessive drinking, & stress are all compounding to feed those ailments but certain nutrition & supplements can actually act as medicine to fight them all.

For those that have converted someone, please share how YOU did it!🙏🏻

Whose cup are you filling?

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I’m realizing I LOVE to learn! 👩‍💻🤓

That probably sounds ironic coming from someone who probably comes across as “flighty”🙃 and who didn’t enjoy school or college much…. but I freakin LOVE to learn about nutrition, how our bodies work/heal/perform, real life human behavior & BUSINESS (that was my degree but I felt it wasn’t REAL WORLD stuff I was learning then).
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Nothing against school or obtaining higher degrees but it’s INCREDIBLE how much you learn when you’re super passionate about the subject & you’re trial-and-error-LIVING the lessons☺️ …annnnd you get to share it with others.
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If you feel empty, maybe you’re filling everyone else’s cup but your own ☕️ ☕️ ☕️